COUPLES COUNSELLING
Ready for a real shift?
Couples therapy is one of my favorite types of counselling. The best moment in the room is when there is a palpable energy drop – all of a sudden the two people in front of me drop their defense mechanisms and get back in touch with the caring they have for each other again. It’s beautiful!
How long have you been waiting?
The average couple waits 6 years after discord begins before seeking help. The earlier you get therapy to change unhealthy patterns of behaviour, the more likely you will keep your relationship together in the long run. If you have waited a very long time, it’s not too late! You can learn straightforward skills that strengthen relationships.
Training
I am certified in Levels 1 & 2 of the Dr. Gottman method of relationship counselling. The Gottman Method is based on breakthrough research that began in the 70s and continues to this day. Their focus has been on scientifically validating what makes relationships succeed or fail. In their research, they were able to predict which couples would divorce with 94% accuracy, which is incredible forecasting! This method of therapy is a “nuts and bolts” approach – it is practical, easy, and simple. You will be taught specific tools to deepen friendship and intimacy, help manage conflicts, appreciate your strengths and navigate your vulnerabilities. The core result is that each partner learns how to listen and express themselves so that they feel deeply heard. I am also trained in Dr. Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the other scientifically validated therapeutic model used in modern couple’s therapy. EFT is based in emotional awareness, sensitivity and vulnerability, and recognizing and changing patterns from destructive to supportive.
“Are we salvageable?”
Getting to a low point in your relationship where you need help does not necessarily mean the end is at hand. Sometimes rock bottom is where change happens quickest. Having a loving, stable relationship is possible if you learn the skills and do the work. I can help you with that!
What if you aren’t sure if you want to be salvageable?
Often couples can’t decide if it is in their best interest to stay together and work on the relationship or to split up and start fresh. There are many factors to consider, but. most importantly, you must learn to get in touch with your own knowing about what is best for everyone. Your emotions and experience carry an incredible amount of information. If you need help discerning your deepest desire when it seems too muddy to see anything clearly, come in and I can help you find clarity.